Questions for your boyfriend, a quick primer
You should start asking her about the things she likes or dislikes, her obsession, her nightmares, and her discomfiting incidents of life. Always be attentive when she talks, and ask random questions every now and then. However, don't be judgmental about anything as it is the last thing the woman will be accepting from you. Make her feel comfortable, and try to find out reasons for her actions and reactions. It is also good to ask her about yourself and how she looks you in her life.